If you want to be unhappy,
uncomfortable, and insecure,
just spend your life trying to
do something that is
not right for you.
It is just like trying to
wear shoes that
don’t fit.
i am so fucking sick of the “sad girl” archetype, the “soft & defenseless” thing, the words “always” and “forever”, like seriously? what the fuck is wrong with people? of course we get sad sometimes. of course we feel weak. but stop romanticizing it. there is enough misery in this world, don’t create more because you think it makes you more “interesting”. stop making an entire subculture out of being soft, sad, & lonely. stop talking about how “you thought you’d be together forever”. don’t be so naive. nothing is forever, and there is not a single person on this earth you can completely depend on except for yourself. NEVER let someone else dictate or control your happiness. you are a complete person unto yourself. you can love another person with all your heart, but as long as you are dependent on them, you will only ever be setting them - and yourself - up for failure. because we are all human and we all fail, and expecting any one person to be your strength is one of the most ridiculous things you can do. find your own god damn strength within yourself.
This is something other than a discussion of depression and I have a lot of time for this post.
“we are all human and we all fail, and expecting any one person to be your strength is one of the most ridiculous things you can do”
The idea of happiness as a process of self-realisation also grates. As if being unhappy somehow puts you further down the karmic food chain and that if you’re not happy it’s because you’re a less worthwhile person. Misery is not always optional and the last thing the miserable need is to be guilt-tripped by the emotionally cleansed.
So many people live within unhappy circumstances and yet will not take the initiative to change their situation because they are conditioned to a life of security, conformity, and conservatism, all of which may appear to give one peace of mind, but in reality nothing is more damaging to the adventurous spirit within a man than a secure future. The very basic core of a man’s living spirit is his passion for adventure. The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.
I have frequently seen people become neurotic when they content themselves with inadequate or wrong answers to the questions of life. They seek position, marriage, reputation, outward success of money, and remain unhappy and neurotic even when they have attained what they were seeking. Such people are usually confined within too narrow a spiritual horizon. Their life has not sufficient content, sufficient meaning. If they are enabled to develop into more spacious personalities, the neurosis generally disappears.
The unhappy person resents it when you try to cheer him up, because that means he has to stop dwelling on himself and start paying attention to the universe. Unhappiness is the ultimate form of self-indulgence. When you’re unhappy, you get to pay a lot of attention to yourself. You get to take yourself oh so very seriously.
